The Los Angeles County Bar Association’s Family Law Dinner Dance and Installation of Officers will be held onSeptember 24, 2016, at the SLS Hotel Beverly Hills. A Better Divorce a Group of Collaborative Professionals has 2 of its members being installed as officers for 2016/2017. Joseph P. Spirito, Jr. as Chair-Elect, and David K. Yamamoto as Secretary.
Torrance, California, September 14, 2016
Christopher Moore, a member of A Better Divorce, a collaborative law group based in the south bay area of Los Angeles County, California, will address the Central Arizona Estate Planning Council in Phoenix, Arizona, on October 3, 2016. The topic will be “Where Death and Divorce Collide: A Few Things Trust and Estate Lawyers Need to Know about Family Law.”
David Kuroda, LCSW, is going to be inducted into the Hall of Distinction, the hall of fame for social workers in the state of California, on October 15, 2016, at the Burbank Marriott. He will be one of five persons, and much of his achievement has been involved with children and families of divorce.
David Kuroda, LCSW, spoke to a “brown bag” lunch meeting of the attorneys at Feinberg, Mindel, Brandt and Kline in July, 2016. His topic: “What I do and Why I do it.”
When something happens that leads to a breakdown of your relationship, often people feel anger and hurt. Something bad has happened and the accompanying negative feelings are natural. You may find you can’t forgive and don’t know how to move past the hurt and anger over past transgressions.
To get through this obstacle, we see forgiveness as a practical problem-solving strategy and the key to letting go and moving on. Negative feelings such as anger and hurt take up too much time and energy and may make things worse.
“Scientific research clearly shows that learning to forgive is good for one’s health and well being, good for mental health and according to recent data, good for physical health as well,” according to Fred Luskin, Ph.d, from the Stanford University Forgiveness Project.
Luskin reports that forgiveness is not the condoning of unkind behavior, excusing poor behavior, reconciliation or giving up having painful feelings. Instead, it empowers you to be a “hero” instead of a victim in your experience. Luskin describes four stages of forgiveness.
- Accept that something bad has happened. We can’t change the past.
- Realize that you must take steps to prevent further emotional stress.
- Take control of your own feelings and choices.
- You take less personal offense – your skin gets tougher. You expect and allow people, including yourself, to be different and not perfect.
Want more information? Read “Forgive for Good,” by Dr. Fred Luskin; and “Forgive for Love,” by Dr. Fred Luskin. You might also want to check out the website of A Better Divorce – www.abetterdivorce.com
A Better Divorce is a group of 30 collaborative law professionals consisting of attorneys, mental health professionals and financial professionals.
A Better Divorce was formally established in 2002 by a group of professionals whose goal was to provide a better way for people to resolve their family law matters than the traditional litigation process. Our goal as a group is to help families resolve their issues in a way that preserves the family, so that everyone can participate in major life events, such as graduations, weddings and other important events.
It is our belief that in order to truly work well collaboratively with other professionals in the stressful arena of family law, it is essential to get to know and understand each other and our styles of working. Some of the ways that we do this include regular monthly meetings, ongoing trainings, retreats, as well as participation in LACFLA, CP Cal and IACP , the local, statewide and international collaborative organizations. We host trainings for other collaborative professionals, and have provided educational seminars to the general public, thereby sharing critical information and expanding awareness of collaborative divorce as an alternative to litigation.
A Better Divorce assists families in non-court, non-adversarial solutions to their family law matters with a ‘win-win’ attitude toward resolving conflicts.
CP CAL Board
Presented by Board Members – Vi Ballard, MFT
There are several committees planning for the upcoming 2017 Conference at the Crown Plaza Hotel in Redondo Beach. The conference is open to mental health professionals, financial professionals and family law attorneys to improve their skills or learn more about Collaborative Divorce.
UCLA Law School – Family Law Course
Presented by Joseph P. Spirito, Jr. of McGaughy & Spirito
PRINCIPLES AND GUIDELINES FOR COLLABORATIVE PRACTICE
When: November 10, 2015
Joe was a guest lecturer at UCLA law school on the principles of collaborative law. Joe discussed the various process options for parties seeking a divorce – including traditional litigation, mediation and collaborative law. The lecture was designed to educate young, future lawyers about the changing landscape of family law and the growing practice of collaborative law.
Divorce Magazine Podcast
Presented by Joseph P. Spirito, Jr. of McGaughy & Spirito
COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE IN CALIFORNIA
When: Fall 2015
Joe was interviewed for a nationwide podcast series by Divorce Magazine. Joe answered questions about selecting a collaborative divorce over a traditional litigated divorce. He also discussed several nuanced characteristics of the collaborative process that spouses may consider when choosing which process of dissolution is right for them.
The South Bay Bar Association Invites you to participate in our charity drive for:
Clothes the Deal – Charity Drive – click .pdf for more imformation
July 1 – August 31, 2016
CTD distributes new and gently worn business clothing to partnering agencies supplementing their employment programs and removing obstacles to gaining employment.