A Better Divorce - Retreat 2017

2017 A Better Divorce Retreat

Honing our collaborative skills!

We had a great training with well-known author and trainer/facilitator Gary Friedman, Esq., and a special talk with Constance Ahrons, author of “The Good Divorce” and “We’re Still Family”.

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prenuptial agreement

Cultural Competency in the Practice of Family Law

On Thursday, October 27, 2016, Attorney, David Yamamoto, of A Better Divorce, a Group of Collaborative Professionals, was a webinar presenter for the Family Law Section of the State Bar of California’s Family Law Section.  Mr. Yamamoto presented on the topic of Cultural Competency in the Practice of Family Law particularly on Premarital Agreements and Family Law in Japan.

David K. Yamamoto, Esq. *CFLS
www.dkylaw.com

“Where Death and Divorce Collide: A Few Things Trust and Estate Lawyers Need to Know about Family Law.”

Torrance, California, September 14, 2016

Christopher Moore, a member of A Better Divorce, a collaborative law group based in the south bay area of Los Angeles County, California, will address the Central Arizona Estate Planning Council in Phoenix, Arizona, on October 3, 2016. The topic will be “Where Death and Divorce Collide: A Few Things Trust and Estate Lawyers Need to Know about Family Law.”

Letting Go and Moving On

When something happens that leads to a breakdown of your relationship, often people feel anger and hurt.  Something bad has happened and the accompanying negative feelings are natural.  You may find you can’t forgive and don’t know how to move past the hurt and anger over past transgressions.

To get through this obstacle, we see forgiveness as a practical problem-solving strategy and the key to letting go and moving on.   Negative feelings such as anger and hurt take up too much time and energy and may make things worse.

“Scientific research clearly shows that learning to forgive is good for one’s health and well being, good for mental health and according to recent data, good for physical health as well,” according to Fred Luskin, Ph.d, from the Stanford University Forgiveness Project.

Luskin reports that forgiveness is not the condoning of unkind behavior, excusing poor behavior, reconciliation or giving up having painful feelings.   Instead, it empowers you to be a “hero” instead of a victim in your experience.  Luskin describes four stages of forgiveness.

  • Accept that something bad has happened.  We can’t change the past.
  • Realize that you must take steps to prevent further emotional stress.
  • Take control of your own feelings and choices.
  • You take less personal offense – your skin gets tougher. You expect and allow people, including yourself, to be different and not perfect.

Want more information?  Read “Forgive for Good,” by Dr. Fred Luskin; and “Forgive for Love,” by Dr. Fred Luskin.  You might also want to check out the website of A Better Divorce – www.abetterdivorce.com

LET US INTRODUCE OURSELVES

A Better Divorce is a group of 30 collaborative law professionals consisting of attorneys, mental health professionals and financial professionals.

A Better Divorce was formally established in 2002 by a group of professionals whose goal was to provide a better way for people to resolve their family law matters than the traditional litigation process. Our goal as a group is to help families resolve their issues in a way that preserves the family, so that everyone can participate in major life events, such as graduations, weddings and other important events.

It is our belief that in order to truly work well collaboratively with other professionals in the stressful arena of family law, it is essential to get to know and understand each other and our styles of working. Some of the ways that we do this include regular monthly meetings, ongoing trainings, retreats, as well as participation in LACFLA, CP Cal and IACP , the local, statewide and international collaborative organizations. We host trainings for other collaborative professionals, and have provided educational seminars to the general public, thereby sharing critical information and expanding awareness of collaborative divorce as an alternative to litigation.

A Better Divorce assists families in non-court, non-adversarial solutions to their family law matters with a ‘win-win’ attitude toward resolving conflicts.