When you first married your partner, the thought of getting divorced and what that life would look like most likely never crossed your mind. As you move through the early stages of your separation you may be faced with the realization that this next chapter in life is moving forward, whether you are ready for it or not. Utilizing a team of collaborative divorce professionals can help you move through this phase in your separation and be better prepared to face the future.
When you choose the collaborative process, you and your spouse each have your own lawyers along with a team of divorce professionals available who can help your family navigate your divorce, both emotionally and financially.
Early in the separation, we know how difficult it can be to look forward to the future. Your collaborative team will help you plan and prepare for your next chapter and there are some things that you can do to help yourself as well. Here are some things you can do to make this phase in the separation process easier:
- Acknowledge that moving forward is not a sprint; it’s a marathon. There will be times when you feel strong, energized and focused; and, there will be times when you struggle to put one foot in front of the other. Don’t dismay. You will still get there;
- Be gentle with yourself – this is all very new;
- Seek out family and friends that can lift you up, with positivity, compassion and understanding;
- Take time for self-care;
- Reach out to a mental health expert – you may be struggling with a lot of feelings right now and you needn’t struggle with them alone;
- When co-parenting, focus on your common goals and values for your child or children. When conflict arises, seek the support of your collaborative team to minimize any negative impacts on the children.
The collaborative “no-court divorce process” isn’t always easy; but, if you take care of yourself, focus on your goals, and plan for a positive future, it can be a “win” for all.
A Better DivorceTM is an interdisciplinary group of professionals committed to non-court, non-confrontational solutions for family law matters.
Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or mental health advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, mental health or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.