Divorce certainly changes a family in ways that can last a lifetime, and often the children bear the brunt in ways we can’t fully understand.
Children do not raise their hand and say, “I am struggling, I am hurting, or I am so very sad or angry.”
When children are struggling emotionally, it often shows up at school with behavior and academic changes. It’s like an iceberg, and the small tip is jutting out of the water while the massive formation lurks underneath – and this is where deep emotional issues and hurt lives.
But as a parent, we want to help ease their stressors and anxiety about how things will be different for them – they might move into a new home or go to a new school. It is best to prepare children for these life-altering changes in a healthy way.
Here are a few ways you can prepare your child emotionally when they need to change schools after the divorce is finalized:
- Practice with them how to answer any divorce questions they might receive from their friends, family or teacher
- Be careful what you share with your children. They may share it with their peers
- Show interest and celebrate your child’s school successes – small or large
- Share with their teachers that the divorce has been finalized and ask them to alert you of any changes in academics or behavior – don’t let it snowball
If your child’s worries and emotions aren’t dealt with healthily in the home and school environment, standing issues could remain long after the divorce is finalized. Working with a child specialist or mental health provider experienced with divorce can be very helpful.
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Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or mental health advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, mental health or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.