When you are going through a divorce, there are many things you need to take into account, and one of the most important parts to consider is how you can help your children process the divorce.
In the collaborative divorce process, your divorce is viewed holistically. You and your family are paired up with attorneys, financial neutrals, and mental health experts who are experienced in dealing with divorce.
As we get to know our clients and begin to understand their family dynamics, we often bring in a divorce coach and child specialist to help co-parent and preserve the family unit.
It is vital to the collaborative process team that everyone involved, including the children, have healthy outlets in which they can share their struggles and concerns in a non-judgmental environment.
Here are a few ways you and your spouse can help your children process your divorce:
- Be open and honest with your child about your marriage
- When telling your children about your impending divorce, do so with your partner present
- Do not use your children as pawns – doing so will cause irrefutable long-term harm
- Work with a divorce coach to learn how to co-parent effectively
- Give your child access to mental health experts who can help them process their emotions
- Show up to your children as a united front with your ex
- Work out before finalizing your divorce how holidays, weekends and summer vacations will be handled
When you work with a divorce coach and a mental health child specialist early on in your divorce process, you can help to ensure that your child is healthily processing your marital separation.
A Better DivorceTM is an interdisciplinary group of professionals who are committed to non-court, non-confrontational solutions for family law matters.
Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or mental health advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, mental health or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.