If you have ever flown, during the in-flight safety education the flight attendants tell you that if the cabin loses pressure and you are flying with a small child, put your oxygen mask on first, then assist your child. If you don’t take the time to put yourself first in putting on the mask, you may be unable to help your child and yourself. In today’s fast-paced world, we have put ourselves last on the list, if we are even on the list at all.
Putting yourself last on the list can be very detrimental to your health and emotional wellbeing, especially when you are going through the divorce process.
Here are some ways you can practice self-care while you are in the process of marital separation:
- Take time out for yourself – even if it’s just 5-minutes – take five minutes daily to breathe purposely and work towards shifting your perspective
- Talk to others – clear your thoughts – it helps you think clearly
- Exercise – running and other exercises that increase your heart rate help to release endorphins – this can reduce anxiety and stress levels
- Journal – writing down your thoughts is freeing to the soul
Practicing self-care is the “oxygen” that will help you get through your divorce, and when all is finalized, you can move forward and step into the next chapter in your life. When you and your spouse use the collaborative divorce process, both of you and your children may choose to be supported by mental health professionals that can help each person sort through the emotions that divorce brings.
A Better DivorceTM is an interdisciplinary group of professionals who are committed to non-court, non-confrontational solutions for family law matters.
Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or mental health advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, mental health, or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.