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The information contained in these articles is of general interest, and should not be relied on for specific advice in your case.

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What Property Are You Entitled To in a Short-Term Marriage?

When you first heard the wedding bells ring for you and your spouse, you felt your commitment to each other would last forever, for better or worse, right? Unfortunately, as you and your spouse shared a marital home, it quickly became abundantly clear that your marriage would not last and the best path forward would be to divorce. When couples divorce after being married for a short period, we often get questions regarding assets and property division. Here is what we often share with our clients about property division when the marriage has not been long-lived: From the first day […]

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Nesting… Is It Right for Your Family?

Have you and your spouse finally decided that your marriage needs to be dissolved? You may be overwhelmed with all the choices you have to make, including deciding on what divorce method to use. Both of you may feel that you would be able to co-parent your child, but you are unsure what that would look like and what it would involve. Both of you may be looking for a way to resolve your issues peacefully and respectfully.  If so, the collaborative divorce process may be the right process for you. A collaborative divorce allows couples to work through their […]

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What is Divorce Mediation?

Most couples only know about a court-litigated divorce – like the glamourous ones we read about or see in popular drama series. But did you know there are several divorce methods that you can use to dissolve your marriage? In addition to a collaborative divorce, another time- and cost-effective method of divorcing outside of court is through divorce mediation, and here’s why: A neutral third-party mediator will help couples reach an amicable divorce agreement without litigation or major delays Mediators can explain how the various methods of divorce work This process can help resolve issues without going to court – […]

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ABD Retreats

In 2003, the Los Angeles County South Bay area collaborative practice group known as A Better Divorce began its continuing tradition of holding a retreat every two years.  The accompanying photo shows the group in 2003 participating in our first retreat. The key to an effective collaborative divorce process is trust, and the group recognized early on that a biennial retreat would be a key building block in establishing trust among the professionals in the group—the attorneys, financial consultants, and mental health professionals.  (Trust among ourselves is the foundation to establishing trust with our clients.)  It has proved true, and […]

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What is a Collaborative Divorce?

Divorce is often filled with roadblocks and detours, there can be so many gray areas that need to be worked through, and it can be financially and emotionally draining. But did you know there is a process that looks at the family as a whole? The goal is to help couples divorce amicably, co-parent together and keep the family unit intact for the future by not pitting couples against each other in a bitter court-litigated divorce. It is called a collaborative divorce. Let’s dive into the process to learn more about it. In a traditional court divorce, you will often […]

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What Is A Litigated Divorce and Why There Are Better Options

Getting a divorce can often feel like a kick in the pants, emotionally, mentally and financially. Your world stops turning, and then when it’s all said and done, you are often unsure how you go on. This is especially true when you go through a litigated divorce through the court system. There are many different aspects of a court divorce. Let us share them with you: Litigation is considered the traditional divorce process that involves court proceedings Both spouses retain their own lawyer who represents them in the process Frequently court divorces become very heated and adversarial because the lawyer […]

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What Are the Top Reasons for a Divorce?

It is an unfortunate moment in someone’s life when they realize the person they once loved with their heart and soul is no longer the person they want to remain married to, and a divorce is the only path forward. And when our team of collaborative divorce experts meets with couples for the very first time, we are often made aware of the reason for the divorce. We have found that for most divorcing couples, their reason for divorcing is often a common one. Here are a few of them: Physical, verbal or emotional abuse to spouse or children Marital […]

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How to Lessen the Stress That Divorce Can Have on Children

Many experts will tell you that the stress from divorce closely equals the death of an immediate family member, such as a spouse or child. Sometimes divorce will take everything, financially and emotionally, out of you and leave you feeling lost. But there is a better way – a way that will lessen the sting and leave your family intact. It’s called collaborative divorce. In this model, you and your spouse have a team consisting of a neutral financial advisor, mental health experts and an attorney for each of you, ready to help both of you weather the divorce storm. […]

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What You Should Know About Divorcing in Your 20s

Were you and your spouse married at a tender age? Maybe it was a whirlwind youthful romance? Or high school sweethearts? But now, after a few years you have realized, while in your 20s, you made a hasty decision to tie the knot. When you are in your 20s and experience divorce, you may feel like the odd person out because many people in this age range have not gotten married yet. Depending on how old you were when you got married before turning 30, studies show that the divorce rate for 1st marriages is between 25%-48%. And because of […]

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What Happens to Your Social Security When You Divorce?

When you and your spouse have come to a point in your marriage where you feel it would be better for all if you pursue a divorce, it brings up so many emotions and questions, especially financial concerns. There are so many factors that need to be considered with the division of assets and debts. It can be overwhelming. But with the collaborative divorce process, couples have access to a neutral financial advisor. This financial advisor will help couples take an honest and unbiased look at their current and future financial landscape and guide them in drafting an amicable agreement. […]

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