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What You Should Know About Splitting Assets During Divorce

When you find yourself starting down the path of divorce with your spouse, there are so many moving parts that you must factor in and understand how it changes the life you are used to. It comes as no surprise, your divorce will have long-reaching changes to your financial landscape that may last for many years. Collaborative divorce allows for a couple to divorce in a more peaceful, respectful manner by staying out of court. It also allows for a financial neutral to learn about all of the assets, debts, income and expenses and then give a clear forecast of […]

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Keeping Your Relationship With Your Child Strong During Your Divorce

There is no doubt the marital separation road has numerous potholes, and often you are unsure how your family will be impacted. But did you know there is help for all involved, including your children? When you choose a collaborative divorce instead of an adversarial court model, you can divorce AND keep your family intact – it really can happen! The collaborative divorce model works on a team model with an attorney for each spouse, a neutral financial expert and mental health experts who are available to help find the best path forward for you,  your spouse and your children. […]

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Which Divorce Path Is Right for You?

When you begin to realize that your marriage is falling apart and the best path forward is to get a divorce, your mind then goes into hyper-drive because you are not sure which divorce process will work the best and keep your family unit intact. In California, there are four different types of divorce processes, let’s talk about each one: In a traditional negotiated or litigated divorce, the courts and attorneys take a key role in deciding your fate for financial support, division of assets and child custody. This method can be  costly and it can take a long time […]

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How Does Divorce Affect Your Taxes?

When you find yourself moving forward with a divorce, it can feel like you have a tsunami landing on top of you! There are so many moving parts. The good news is that if you and your spouse choose the collaborative process, you can work through your financial landscape in a non-adversarial, no-court method. You may also choose to have a neutral financial advisor who can help both of you develop a financial agreement that is agreeable to both of you. Often, we see couples who are divorcing that have not considered how their taxes will be impacted. And when […]

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How Divorce Affects Retirement

When you find that you and your spouse need to get a divorce, there are so many moving parts. One that is often overlooked is how your divorce will affect your retirement. The closer you are to retirement, the more front and center this becomes when divorcing. Divorce in this age group is often referred to as a gray divorce. During a collaborative divorce, couples meet with a neutral financial professional who can help untangle a complicated financial landscape and determine how the financials, including retirement, can be distributed in a mutually agreeable way without court and litigation. Here are […]

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Self-Care Tips for Parents Who Are Divorcing

If you have ever flown, during the in-flight safety education the flight attendants tell you that if the cabin loses pressure and you are flying with a small child, put your oxygen mask on first, then assist your child. If you don’t take the time to put yourself first in putting on the mask, you may be unable to help your child and yourself. In today’s fast-paced world, we have put ourselves last on the list, if we are even on the list at all. Putting yourself last on the list can be very detrimental to your health and emotional […]

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What is Divorce Coaching and How it Helps in a Collaborative Divorce Case

Paula March What is Divorce Coaching and How it Helps in a Collaborative Divorce Case Divorce is typically the end result of serious relationship problems. This requires clients to deal with a multitude of emotional issues, along with the legal and financial ramifications. A lot of people who go through a divorce only see it from a legal and financial standpoint, failing to address all the emotional issues. It is important, however, to ensure you take the time to address and work through all parts of the divorce — legal, financial, and emotional to help you move forward in the […]

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The 3-Marriage Cycle

Sometimes the starting point for the interdisciplinary professionals within our Collaborative Divorce Group (ABD) is a struggling couple where one or both of them are ambivalent about remaining together. Other times the process begins with couples that have made the decision to move their relationships toward divorce. In either of these scenarios, we are interested to assess what marriage cycle the presenting couple is in. And how their “previous marriages” evolved. Even if they were to each other. Based on my years as a couple’s therapist and a divorce coach, in most long-term relationships, spouses generally marry each other 3 […]

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